You know how you find yourself having a realization (at your age?) and wondering how you had never conceived of such a thing in your life…and you are kind of shocked (and maybe embarrassed) that you never did? Well, that is what happened when I decided to go ahead and purchase the bright pink sleeveless dress with the too tight armholes. It took my entire adult life to have the courage to buy a dress that had most of the elements of design that I liked – but not quite – and change it. It may sound silly, but, before that, it had never occurred to me to buy something that had been designed by someone else, say thank you very much but I am going to improve upon this – and do it. I have perfectly beautiful arms, even if they are the size of canons. I used to pass on dresses, wondering: Why do I fall in love with great dresses that squeeze into my armpits and push a little burp of fat out from beneath? Until I took my power back.